You were all ready for your big move, but then something happened: your assets plummeted, your property did not sell, or that job offer fell through. The final line is that the maneuver failed, and you are left to pick up the pieces of disappointment.
Do you simply accept that it was not meant to be and focus on your current situation?
Or do you convince yourself that this is merely a short setback and put your furnishings in storage while you seek for another opportunity to move?
When you prepare for a move, you get a lot of momentum; mentally, you’re already at your new location. You were undoubtedly filled with excitement, anxiousness, and a sense of adventure about your new place.
To help you cope, keep these things in mind.
Be aware of what you’re feeling and let yourself feel it
Don’t shrink it or add a smiling face on it. If you’re frustrated, hit your pillow with your fists, go for a run, or shout. If you’re sad, allow yourself to cry. The objective is to communicate your feelings without causing harm to others, including yourself. Perhaps you’re feeling relieved because a part of you prefers to stay where you are.
Re-frame your situation
Most things aren’t intrinsically good or terrible; it all depends on our perception. You might view your canceled move as either a problem or an opportunity. Questions to ask yourself to help you reframe your situation: “What are some advantages to staying put right now?” “Is there any unfinished business I’ve had here that now I can complete?”.
Look at your options
Depending on why the relocation fell through, you can ask yourself the following questions and create new arrangements accordingly:
Bad timing? Will the problem that has prevented you from moving simply resolve itself over time? Perhaps the way will become evident after a year? If so, your plans may be put on hold. This may involve a budget freeze, a relative moving into assisted living, and so on.
If you need help with moving some of your belongings,the H2H Movers an help you pack and sort out your items.
Did the job offer fall through? If you’re pleased about the new location, consider looking for similar positions in the same city. Perhaps you’ll find something even better.
Not enough money? Assume you intended to retire but are now unable to afford to live on your retirement income in the new area you have chosen. What about finding part-time employment in the same new place, easing into retirement with a semi-retirement, or moving to another region with a cheaper cost of living that you can manage on your retirement income? This might mean relocating overseas.
Has the relationship changed? Assume you were planning to relocate with your boyfriend and then split up. This is an excellent moment to reconsider what you truly want on your own. Would you have relocated to that city or town if you hadn’t met your partner? Do you believe you would be happier where you are, or are you ready to go somewhere new in general?
Another option is to arrange a home swap with a family or couple in your selected location. There are websites that focus on this. Simply type “house swaps” into Google and you’ll discover several large sites. Check out your local REIA (Real Estate Investment Association) to learn about more than just cookie-cutter ways to profit from your home(s).
Also, be open to possibilities you might not have considered before. Maybe now is the time to go on an around-the-world backpacking journey, volunteer for the America Corps or Peace Corps, or start your own business! If you are in between jobs, you may discover that traveling abroad is less expensive than paying rent in the United States.
Do not give up on your dreams! If you still want to move, you can do it.